3/30/09

How to Choose the Right Doula for Your Birth

Questions you want to ask a doula should include...

  • Are you taking any new doula clients for the month I'm due? (If they say no, ask them if they can refer you to any other local doulas.)
  • What's your experience and training as a doula?
  • How would you describe your approach to birth as a doula?
  • What's your price? And can you provide me with references?

While the answers to your questions are important, you're really looking more to see how you feel with them on the phone. Do you feel comfortable? Do they sound like someone you could relate to? Do you like the sound of their voice? (Yes, really! That is the voice you'll be listening to during birth, and you want it to be pleasant for you.) Once you go through your list, arrange to meet face to face with two or three (or four!) of them.

Even if the first doula you meet feels like the perfect match, I'd still suggest meeting with at least one other doula. Being able to compare the two will help in making your choice. Also, make sure your partner meets the doula as well. It's essential that he also feels comfortable with your chosen doula.

When deciding which doula to hire, experience and training often come second to which doula feels right. Listening to your gut is important when choosing a doula.

Also consider what you're looking for in a doula. Everyone wants something a little different. Some people want a doula who will be a strong advocate. Others feel having a doula who will be involved physically a great deal, through massage and physical support, is most important. And some want someone to just be there to provide a calm and centered atmosphere.

Another important consideration when looking for a doula is their feelings on birth and how it will affect their support. You want someone non-judgmental, who you'll feel comfortable with no matter what your requests or views on birth are.

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